by Beyond Safewords | Jun 3, 2019 | #MeToo, Abuse, Breaking Silence, Challenging narratives, Mental health, Restorative Justice, Sexuality, Trauma
It’s been a busy time, not just for the world at large, but also our survivor support team. Not only have the Women of the Game Changer stories gone live, but two public statements from Franklin’s pod have also come also come on the radar. The first is a Quora...
by Beyond Safewords | Mar 20, 2019 | education, intersectionality, oppression, prevention, sex, sex education, Sexuality, Trauma, Uncategorized
Once again, I find myself blowing the dust off of my poor neglected blog. To be completely honest, I wish I were coming back to this space under happier circumstances. Serious allegations have come out about Franklin Veaux, co-author of More Than Two. Among the women...
by Beyond Safewords | Jul 18, 2017 | Abuse, Challenging narratives, education, Mental health, NCSF, Power Exchange, sex, sex education, Sexuality, twitter, Uncategorized
Content warning for discussion of partner violence and self injury. If you or someone you know is experiencing partner violence, The Network/La Red has a confidential 24 hour hotline. They are affirming of all gender and sexual orientations. Also, if you’re...
by Beyond Safewords | Jun 6, 2017 | Abuse, Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, sex, sex education, Sexuality, Trauma, Uncategorized
I had the distinct privilege of being heavily quoted in a recent Broadly piece about beloved characters’ sex lives. It’s a fun article that is well worth the read. I sent a lot of info to the author of that article, and only so much of my response could...
by Beyond Safewords | Nov 17, 2016 | politics
I imagine I’m not the only one who felt the world turn upside down on November 9th. I feel like Malcom Reynolds watching the Alliance decimate Serenity valley. Nothing is the same. And I, for one, am scared. Not just for myself, but also my friends, loved ones,...
by Beyond Safewords | Jun 15, 2016 | bisexuality, intersectionality, orlando, orlando shooting, Sexuality, Uncategorized
I, like so many, am struggling to process the recent massacre in Orlando. If you or someone you know were impacted by this tragedy, I mourn with you. No one should have to shoulder the crushing weight of this grief alone. And yet… For many people who don’t...
by Beyond Safewords | Jun 7, 2016 | Abuse, Breaking Silence, Uncategorized
So, I’ve been reading a lot about the Stanford sexual assault case. The victim’s testimony broke my heart (all the sexual assault content warnings. But the letter, start to finish, is an important read) I read horrifically uninformed and callous defense...
by Beyond Safewords | May 8, 2016 | Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, Sexuality, tokenism, Uncategorized
As I had hoped, my last post on Shibari and Appropriation generated some really interesting and important feedback. Some people identified some perceived blind spots in my post, as well as aspects of this issue that went unaddressed or under-addressed. A few people...
by Beyond Safewords | May 1, 2016 | Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, oppression, race, sex, sex education, Sexuality, shibari, tokenism, Uncategorized
Last Wednesday, I had the privilege of giving a Webinar type presentation for University of Wisconsin at Oshkosh’s Sex week on BDSM. I gave a 101 version of my sound relationship dungeon and opened the floor up to a Q and A. I got asked a lot of good questions...
by Beyond Safewords | Apr 14, 2016 | Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, Gender, harm reduction, Mental health, Sex Therapy, Sexuality
So, I was getting ready to finally get off my tail and write my last Sound Relationship Dungeon entry, when a dear friend messaged me on Facebook Chat. He said: Aww, man! Gottman is hating on porn. He also linked to this open letter from Gottman’s blog. Gottman...
