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CatalystCon Musings

Posted by on Sep 17, 2015 in Abuse, Challenging narratives, education, event, Restorative Justice, Sexuality, Sound Relationship Dungeon, storify, Trauma, Uncategorized | 1 comment

Thank you again to the organizers at CatalystCon for inviting me to speak. It was truly a privilege to have been part of this event. I truly appreciated the opportunity to connect and learn from so many amazing activists, clinicians and educators. For those of you who could not make it to CatalystCon, I am posting the Storify of the class’...

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Woodhull Debrief

Woodhull Debrief

Posted by on Aug 17, 2015 in Challenging narratives, Classes, education, event, harm reduction, Healing, prevention, Sexuality, storify, Uncategorized | 0 comments

I am decompressing from an amazing and inspiring weekend at the Woodhull Sexual Summit. I am filled with gratitude to have been among the amazing speakers and professionals who are doing important work in the field of sexuality. I am still processing the event, and probably will be for the next few weeks. Many powerful conversations were had about sex...

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Sound Relationship Dungeon Part 6: Managing Conflict

Sound Relationship Dungeon Part 6: Managing Conflict

Posted by on Apr 6, 2015 in Breaking Silence, Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, Power Exchange, Sound Relationship Dungeon, storify, troubleshooting kink, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Today’s installment of the Sound Relationship Dungeon is all about managing conflict. Whenever we make the choice to connect or share intimacy with another human being, we run the risk of hurting someone and being hurt. It’s part of the whole “being human” thing. No ones’ feelings, core values, and perspectives ever match 100%...

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Sound Relationship Dungeon Part 4: Turning Towards

Sound Relationship Dungeon Part 4: Turning Towards

Posted by on Mar 2, 2015 in Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, Gender, Power Exchange, Sexuality, storify, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Whenever healthy kink is discussed or explained to people outside the “lifestyle,” the primary focus is on consent. According to prevailing wisdom, so long as everyone involved is a functioning adult, and all parties consent, everything is kosher. While consent is super important, it is not the only characteristic of healthy kink. Necessary but...

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Kink Aware Therapy and Event Debrief

Posted by on Feb 16, 2015 in Breaking Silence, Challenging narratives, Classes, education, event, NELA, Sexuality, storify, troubleshooting kink, Uncategorized | 1 comment

I am spending this very chilly President’s Day avoiding the cold and decompressing from my weekend at The Flea. I want to thank all of the NELA staff and volunteers for putting together such a fantastic event. It was truly a joy to be part of this event. This past weekend, I taught not one, not two, but three classes at...

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