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Et Tu, Gottman?

Et Tu, Gottman?

Posted by on Apr 14, 2016 in Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, Gender, harm reduction, Mental health, Sex Therapy, Sexuality | 1 comment

So, I was getting ready to finally get off my tail and write my last Sound Relationship Dungeon entry, when a dear friend messaged me on Facebook Chat. He said: Aww, man! Gottman is hating on porn. He also¬†linked to this open letter from Gottman’s blog. Gottman writes: With pornography use, much more of a normal stimulus may eventually be needed to...

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AASECT Debrief

AASECT Debrief

Posted by on Jun 8, 2015 in AASECT, Breaking Silence, Challenging narratives, Classes, education, event, Sex Therapy, Sexuality, Uncategorized | 0 comments

As I decompress from my weekend at AASECT, I find myself faced with an interesting yes/and moment. This past weekend was a transformational experience for me, both personally and professionally. At the same time, concerns have been raised about AASECT’s commitment not only to diversity, but fostering an environment that is open and welcoming to...

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Pink Therapy and Sexual Diversity

Posted by on Jun 1, 2015 in harm reduction, Healing, kink event, Mental health, prevention, Sex Therapy, Sexuality, Uncategorized | 0 comments

One of the many presenters I had the privilege of meeting at CARAS was Dominic Davies of Pink Therapy. Pink therapy is a practice in the UK that specializes in gender and sexual diversity. They provide culturally competent care to clients of all genders and sexual identifications. They also offer some pretty fantastic training programs. If I had the time...

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Troubleshooting Kink: Behind the Scenes

Posted by on Jan 19, 2015 in education, kink event, Mental health, Sex Therapy, Sexuality, Uncategorized | 0 comments

In a few short weeks, I have the honor of presenting at the healthy vs abusive kink and mental health round table, I will be teaching a brand new class, called Troubleshooting Kink, on aftercare and conflict resolution. For those readers not well versed in kink/BDSM terminology, there are traditionally three “phases” of an episode of kinky...

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Naked Therapy, Get Off My Lawn!

Naked Therapy, Get Off My Lawn!

Posted by on Sep 22, 2014 in Abuse, Sex Therapy, Sexuality, Trauma, Uncategorized | 2 comments

Update: I wrote an addendum to this post, which can be found here. Generally speaking, I like to consider myself more open minded than your average bear. I am also not opposed to the notion that not all people respond well to traditional therapeutic methods, and can find healing by other means. And then I read articles about stuff like this… The service in...

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Kink, Trauma, Transformation

Posted by on Aug 25, 2014 in Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, harm reduction, Healing, Mental health, Sex Therapy, Sexuality, Trauma, Uncategorized | 0 comments

The intersection of kink and trauma, especially sexual trauma, is a source of perpetual angst and controversy, both within and outside of kink communities. This is, in part, because of how sexual sadism and masochism were viewed by many a mental health professional since Richard von Krafft-Ebing published Psychopathia Sexualis. Anecdotally, I know of many...

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