by Beyond Safewords | Apr 14, 2016 | Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, Gender, harm reduction, Mental health, Sex Therapy, Sexuality
So, I was getting ready to finally get off my tail and write my last Sound Relationship Dungeon entry, when a dear friend messaged me on Facebook Chat. He said: Aww, man! Gottman is hating on porn. He also linked to this open letter from Gottman’s blog. Gottman...
by Beyond Safewords | Jun 8, 2015 | AASECT, Breaking Silence, Challenging narratives, Classes, education, event, Sex Therapy, Sexuality, Uncategorized
As I decompress from my weekend at AASECT, I find myself faced with an interesting yes/and moment. This past weekend was a transformational experience for me, both personally and professionally. At the same time, concerns have been raised about AASECT’s...
by Beyond Safewords | Jun 1, 2015 | harm reduction, Healing, kink event, Mental health, prevention, Sex Therapy, Sexuality, Uncategorized
One of the many presenters I had the privilege of meeting at CARAS was Dominic Davies of Pink Therapy. Pink therapy is a practice in the UK that specializes in gender and sexual diversity. They provide culturally competent care to clients of all genders and sexual...
by Beyond Safewords | Jan 19, 2015 | education, kink event, Mental health, Sex Therapy, Sexuality, Uncategorized
In a few short weeks, I have the honor of presenting at the healthy vs abusive kink and mental health round table, I will be teaching a brand new class, called Troubleshooting Kink, on aftercare and conflict resolution. For those readers not well versed in kink/BDSM...
by Beyond Safewords | Sep 22, 2014 | Abuse, Sex Therapy, Sexuality, Trauma, Uncategorized
Update: I wrote an addendum to this post, which can be found here. Generally speaking, I like to consider myself more open minded than your average bear. I am also not opposed to the notion that not all people respond well to traditional therapeutic methods, and can...
by Beyond Safewords | Aug 25, 2014 | Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, harm reduction, Healing, Mental health, Sex Therapy, Sexuality, Trauma, Uncategorized
The intersection of kink and trauma, especially sexual trauma, is a source of perpetual angst and controversy, both within and outside of kink communities. This is, in part, because of how sexual sadism and masochism were viewed by many a mental health professional...