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Pink Therapy and Sexual Diversity

Posted by on Jun 1, 2015 in harm reduction, Healing, kink event, Mental health, prevention, Sex Therapy, Sexuality, Uncategorized | 0 comments

One of the many presenters I had the privilege of meeting at CARAS was Dominic Davies of Pink Therapy. Pink therapy is a practice in the UK that specializes in gender and sexual diversity. They provide culturally competent care to clients of all genders and sexual identifications. They also offer some pretty fantastic training programs. If I had the time...

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Troubleshooting Kink: Behind the Scenes

Posted by on Jan 19, 2015 in education, kink event, Mental health, Sex Therapy, Sexuality, Uncategorized | 0 comments

In a few short weeks, I have the honor of presenting at the healthy vs abusive kink and mental health round table, I will be teaching a brand new class, called Troubleshooting Kink, on aftercare and conflict resolution. For those readers not well versed in kink/BDSM terminology, there are traditionally three “phases” of an episode of kinky...

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Post-con Musings; Restorative Justice at Kink Events

Post-con Musings; Restorative Justice at Kink Events

Posted by on Nov 17, 2014 in Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, harm reduction, Healing, kink event, Restorative Justice, Trauma, Uncategorized | 4 comments

Pseudolus: Wait! Hero: Yes? Pseudolus: A brilliant idea! Hero: Yes! Pseudolus: That’s what we need, a brilliant idea. -from A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum This past week, I had the honor and privilege of writing an entry for Kink and Tango post. You can read the article Here. I’m more than a little proud of it. I also presented at...

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Boundaries Were Violated (But Not By Us)

Boundaries Were Violated (But Not By Us)

Posted by on Oct 27, 2014 in Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, harm reduction, Healing, kink event, Sexuality, Uncategorized | 1 comment

As I was pondering what to write about today, I stumbled upon this post about a minor Canadian celebrity, Jian Ghomeshi, who claims that he was fired for being kinky. Turns out there are multiple allegations of consent violations against him. Andrea Zanin, Sex Geek blog author, sums up the issue pretty perfectly. A danger inherent in this kind of...

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Consent and Congruence

Consent and Congruence

Posted by on Sep 29, 2014 in Common Myths, education, kink event, Mental health, Power Exchange, Sexuality, Uncategorized | 0 comments

This past weekend, I had the privilege of presenting at Wicked Women, where I taught my healthy vs. abusive kink class and the workshop I developed with Kamela Dolinova on creative negotiation and embodied consent. One of the many things I love about teaching workshops is that I come away having learned as much, of not more than those taking my workshops....

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Kink and Mental Health Roundtable

Posted by on Aug 18, 2014 in Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, geeky kink New England, harm reduction, kink event, Mental health, prevention, Sexuality, Uncategorized | 0 comments

First of all, I want to thank all of the folks at Geeky Kink New England for hosting me, and putting together such a wonderful event. On Saturday morning, I taught my Breaking Silence class, which breaks down the differences between healthy and abusive kink, and explores how to best address abuse and violence in kink communities. There was a small turnout,...

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