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Posted by on Jul 9, 2015 in Abuse, Breaking Silence, Challenging narratives, Common Myths, Healing, Internet, Mental health, Trauma, troubleshooting kink, Uncategorized | 0 comments

It has been just over a year since I started this blog. Amazing how quickly the time has gone. When I began this blog, I set out to create a space where I could work out my thoughts, tackle some hot button issues, and hopefully providing a unique perspective on kink, sexuality and abuse. I like to think I’m doing an ok job thus far. A lot of very...

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Topping from the bottom

Posted by on Mar 23, 2015 in Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, Internet, Power Exchange, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Back in August, I wrote a post on kink and healing trauma. In this post, I asked people to share their stories. Anyway, this past week, I received a comment from that feedback by Angger Schweinsteiger. It looks like Annger posted both a comment and a reply from a different post. Negative comments were referenced, and no one made negative comments on my...

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Tool kits and discontents

Posted by on Feb 23, 2015 in Abuse, Breaking Silence, Challenging narratives, Classes, Fetlife, harm reduction, Healing, Internet, NCSF, prevention, Restorative Justice, Uncategorized | 0 comments

As part of my research for my Breaking Silence Class, I came across two resources that seemed very promising. The first is INCITE’s resources for community organizing and violence prevention. INCITE is an organization of women, gender non-conforming, and trans* people of color who are working to prevent violence in their communities. I haven’t...

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Lena Dunham and Accidental Javerts

Lena Dunham and Accidental Javerts

Posted by on Nov 3, 2014 in Abuse, Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, harm reduction, Healing, Internet, prevention, Restorative Justice, Trauma, Uncategorized | 0 comments

The more time I spend on social media, the more I wish more people understood Brene Brown’s findings on shame and blame. I’ll let her explain. Lena Dunham is popping up quite a bit on my social media pages. She has apparently been accused of shamelessly describing molesting her sister in her newest book. She is one of many public figures who are being...

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Survivors of Internet Harassment

Posted by on Oct 13, 2014 in Challenging narratives, Gamergate, Internet, Sexuality, Uncategorized | 0 comments

I’m coming back from an intensive weekend of sex therapy education at U Mich’s Sexual Health Certificate program. The weekend gave me a lot to think about, and a lot to unpack that I’m not yet in a space to do justice to on this blog. So today, I’m going on a slight tangent to talk about #gamergate. I’ve been passively...

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