by Beyond Safewords | Jun 6, 2017 | Abuse, Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, sex, sex education, Sexuality, Trauma, Uncategorized
I had the distinct privilege of being heavily quoted in a recent Broadly piece about beloved characters’ sex lives. It’s a fun article that is well worth the read. I sent a lot of info to the author of that article, and only so much of my response could...
by Beyond Safewords | May 8, 2016 | Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, Sexuality, tokenism, Uncategorized
As I had hoped, my last post on Shibari and Appropriation generated some really interesting and important feedback. Some people identified some perceived blind spots in my post, as well as aspects of this issue that went unaddressed or under-addressed. A few people...
by Beyond Safewords | May 1, 2016 | Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, oppression, race, sex, sex education, Sexuality, shibari, tokenism, Uncategorized
Last Wednesday, I had the privilege of giving a Webinar type presentation for University of Wisconsin at Oshkosh’s Sex week on BDSM. I gave a 101 version of my sound relationship dungeon and opened the floor up to a Q and A. I got asked a lot of good questions...
by Beyond Safewords | Apr 14, 2016 | Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, Gender, harm reduction, Mental health, Sex Therapy, Sexuality
So, I was getting ready to finally get off my tail and write my last Sound Relationship Dungeon entry, when a dear friend messaged me on Facebook Chat. He said: Aww, man! Gottman is hating on porn. He also linked to this open letter from Gottman’s blog. Gottman...
by Beyond Safewords | Oct 6, 2015 | Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, harm reduction, Uncategorized
A while ago, I wrote a post about my issues with trigger warnings. In short, I wasn’t against them, but wary of how they could be used. Recently, I’ve had some conversations that have shifted my stance. When I wrote the post, I made a common, but...
by Beyond Safewords | Sep 18, 2015 | Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, harm reduction, Healing, prevention, Restorative Justice
I initially posted this along with my CatalystCon Live tweets. However, on further reflection, I decided it warranted its own post. In addition to my talk, there was also a panel at CatalystCon on addressing abuse in alternative relationships. Cunning Minx of...