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Anniversary

Posted by on Jul 9, 2015 in Abuse, Breaking Silence, Challenging narratives, Common Myths, Healing, Internet, Mental health, Trauma, troubleshooting kink, Uncategorized | 0 comments

It has been just over a year since I started this blog. Amazing how quickly the time has gone. When I began this blog, I set out to create a space where I could work out my thoughts, tackle some hot button issues, and hopefully providing a unique perspective on kink, sexuality and abuse. I like to think I’m doing an ok job thus far. A lot of very...

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AASECT Debrief

AASECT Debrief

Posted by on Jun 8, 2015 in AASECT, Breaking Silence, Challenging narratives, Classes, education, event, Sex Therapy, Sexuality, Uncategorized | 0 comments

As I decompress from my weekend at AASECT, I find myself faced with an interesting yes/and moment. This past weekend was a transformational experience for me, both personally and professionally. At the same time, concerns have been raised about AASECT’s commitment not only to diversity, but fostering an environment that is open and welcoming to...

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I Read The News Today…

I Read The News Today…

Posted by on Apr 27, 2015 in Breaking Silence, Challenging narratives, Common Myths, Healing, Trauma, Uncategorized | 0 comments

I had a post planned out today about shame and empathy. It’s sitting in my drafts folder right now. Perhaps I’ll post it next week or the week after. Today, I just didn’t have it in me to click the post button. I’ve been reading a lot about the protests in Baltimore. One more black man shot down by the people we pay to protect the...

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Sound Relationship Dungeon Part 6: Managing Conflict

Sound Relationship Dungeon Part 6: Managing Conflict

Posted by on Apr 6, 2015 in Breaking Silence, Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, Power Exchange, Sound Relationship Dungeon, storify, troubleshooting kink, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Today’s installment of the Sound Relationship Dungeon is all about managing conflict. Whenever we make the choice to connect or share intimacy with another human being, we run the risk of hurting someone and being hurt. It’s part of the whole “being human” thing. No ones’ feelings, core values, and perspectives ever match 100%...

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Tool kits and discontents

Posted by on Feb 23, 2015 in Abuse, Breaking Silence, Challenging narratives, Classes, Fetlife, harm reduction, Healing, Internet, NCSF, prevention, Restorative Justice, Uncategorized | 0 comments

As part of my research for my Breaking Silence Class, I came across two resources that seemed very promising. The first is INCITE’s resources for community organizing and violence prevention. INCITE is an organization of women, gender non-conforming, and trans* people of color who are working to prevent violence in their communities. I haven’t...

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Kink Aware Therapy and Event Debrief

Posted by on Feb 16, 2015 in Breaking Silence, Challenging narratives, Classes, education, event, NELA, Sexuality, storify, troubleshooting kink, Uncategorized | 1 comment

I am spending this very chilly President’s Day avoiding the cold and decompressing from my weekend at The Flea. I want to thank all of the NELA staff and volunteers for putting together such a fantastic event. It was truly a joy to be part of this event. This past weekend, I taught not one, not two, but three classes at...

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