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Shibari Appropriation Redux

Posted by on May 8, 2016 in Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, Sexuality, tokenism, Uncategorized | 0 comments

As I had hoped, my last post on Shibari and Appropriation generated some really interesting and important feedback. Some people identified some perceived blind spots in my post, as well as aspects of this issue that went unaddressed or under-addressed. A few people noted, and rightly so, was that the issue was not about cultural appropriation, but rather...

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Et Tu, Gottman?

Et Tu, Gottman?

Posted by on Apr 14, 2016 in Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, Gender, harm reduction, Mental health, Sex Therapy, Sexuality | 1 comment

So, I was getting ready to finally get off my tail and write my last Sound Relationship Dungeon entry, when a dear friend messaged me on Facebook Chat. He said: Aww, man! Gottman is hating on porn. He also linked to this open letter from Gottman’s blog. Gottman writes: With pornography use, much more of a normal stimulus may eventually be needed to...

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Trigger warnings revisited

Posted by on Oct 6, 2015 in Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, harm reduction, Uncategorized | 0 comments

A while ago, I wrote a post about my issues with trigger warnings. In short, I wasn’t against them, but wary of how they could be used. Recently, I’ve had some conversations that have shifted my stance. When I wrote the post, I made a common, but inaccurate assumption: a trigger warning’s purpose is to shield people from challenging...

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Accountability in Kink Communities

Posted by on Sep 18, 2015 in Challenging narratives, Common Myths, education, harm reduction, Healing, prevention, Restorative Justice | 0 comments

I initially posted this along with my CatalystCon Live tweets. However, on further reflection, I decided it warranted its own post. In addition to my talk, there was also a panel at CatalystCon on addressing abuse in alternative relationships. Cunning Minx of Polyamory Weekly published her roundup of that conversation here. I was glad to see other people...

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