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Jun15

Bisexual identity and Orlando

Posted on Jun 15 by

Someone asked on a Facebook discussion thread why the Orlando shooting brings up so much angst around identity for bisexual folks. This is my response

Jun07

Thoughts on the Stanford Sexual Assault Case

Posted on Jun 7 by

The Stanford sexual assault case is heartbreaking, and many people are angered by the judge’s leniency on the perpetrator. The Internet is out for blood. I’m not. But I’m still angry, and want to channel that anger into something less corrosive.

May08

Shibari Appropriation Redux

Posted on May 8 by

As I had hoped, my last post on Shibari and Appropriation generated some really interesting and important feedback. Some people identified some perceived blind spots in my post,...

Apr14

Et Tu, Gottman?

Posted on Apr 14 by

So, I was getting ready to finally get off my tail and write my last Sound Relationship Dungeon entry, when a dear friend messaged me on Facebook Chat. He said: Aww, man! Gottman...

Oct06

Trigger warnings revisited

Posted on Oct 6 by

A while ago, I wrote a post about my issues with trigger warnings. In short, I wasn’t against them, but wary of how they could be used. Recently, I’ve had some...

Sep18

Accountability in Kink Communities

Posted on Sep 18 by

I initially posted this along with my CatalystCon Live tweets. However, on further reflection, I decided it warranted its own post. In addition to my talk, there was also a panel...

Sep17

CatalystCon Musings

Posted on Sep 17 by

Thank you again to the organizers at CatalystCon for inviting me to speak. It was truly a privilege to have been part of this event. I truly appreciated the opportunity to...